Isn’t the blogosphere a fantastic place?
You meet such wonderful people on-line: six months ago I would not have believed that total strangers would be so supportive, caring and kind. Thank you all so very much for your immediate responses and supportive comments, they helped a huge amount.
But then of course, that is the magical thing about blogging. People are not total strangers for long. I was talking about the psychology of blogging to a friend a few days ago. Now, several of you are psychologists and I am not: but it seems to me that meeting people ‘virtually’ seems to speed up the ‘getting to know you’ process.
For a start, I assume that people who are drawn to particular blogs are a self selecting group: then of course we do not need to bother with ‘small talk’ whilst holding a glass in one hand and balancing a plate in the other, instead we get down to the nitty gritty straight away by reading about peoples’ lives, inner thoughts and views on life. I suppose this speeds up the process no end. Neither do we need to be preoccupied with body language, clothes, hair etc. No visual image to get in the way, we get into the real book immediately without being given any preconceptions from the cover.
I always thought that tones of voice and facial expressions were essential for good communication but now I begin to wonder. It seems easier somehow to be frank at the end of a computer: perhaps it is the analogy of the confessional. What would take weeks of casual encounters, cups of coffee, dinners, etc. seems to be accomplished on line in a few days. Magic.
And the wonder of being able to meet people from all round the world that one would have been unlikely to meet in the normal course of life. It seems to me that there should be blogging events every few years for regular bloggers to meet up, rather like the abortive weekend I was planning for the family!! But would it create great disappointment: like listening to a voice on the radio and then finding that the person is completely different from how you envisaged. If so, what would that say about human communication? That the essence of a person is lost as soon as it is clothed in flesh?
I’m too new at this blogging lark to have really thought it through. All I know is how grateful I am for all my new blogging friends. Thank you all again!!